I'm a dog owner, and with that comes the disgusting task of picking up poop. Poop is messy, smelly, dirty, I just wanna ignore it. But I am a responsible dog owner and I do my "duty". So why am I talking about poop? Well, what else is messy, smelly, dirty that you want to ignore? Um, how about Life? The problems in life, the lost dreams, the painful situations, guilt, shame, death, break ups, the "u done me wrongs", the fears ... These are all things we want to ignore and want to brush under the rug. But if we do that, if we don't face our problems, we end up stuck & unhappy, and things just fester until they are a stinky, stank mess. What situations are going on in your life that need cleaned up? How are you dealing with them, or not? Drinking? Drugs? Binge Eating? Social Media obsessions? Doing Busy work? Ignoring those in your life that hurt you? Taking on too much so that you can't even breathe? Staying in your comfort zone because it is "easier", Watching endless Keeping up with the Kardashians fare?? This is no way to live. No way at all. If you look in the mirror are you really happy? And maybe happiness is not the word, are you content? Do you like who you are? Are you pursuing life with a passion? Are you doing the things that make you really happy? Are you fixing the problems? Are you seeking out those who hurt you or those YOU hurt to find some resolution and path to forgiveness? Is there a hidden fear or self hatred you have? Ignoring these things will just make us hurt more and feel hopeless. Most of us fear facing these things in our lives. It is easier to sit on the sidelines. I have been through it, I still go through it at times and it is hard. Facing these things gives you the feeling that you are falling off a cliff with no bottom. Incredibly scary. But you can come out on the other side feeling sooooo much better! But you can do it! You have to do it if you don't want to live in a life of shallowness and hopelessness. Start by writing down the things in your life that you have always wanted to do. Follow that with all the things that you think may be holding you back. Seek counsel through a church group, or counseling group, or find individual counsel. Read books like The War of Art, 212 the Extra Degree, Own your Dreams, Chasing Daylight, Action Trumps Everything, and The Search for Significance. I have read and re-read all of these. I have attended counseling groups, I have lead counseling groups. I still talk to friends and counselors when I feel like I am backsliding. It is an ongoing process but I can tell you that I feel so much better about who I am as a person and why I am on this earth. I want you to feel the same. So I have written blogs, created vlogs and courses to help other people. I urge you to watch my previous Vlogs that talk about the book The War of Art and how to attack life like a professional, and I created a free lesson on finding your passions and purpose. I urge you to sign up for it: FREE Lesson . In the near future I will have a full course on finding your self worth and facing your fears so you can live a better life with passion and purpose. Sign up Here to learn more: SIGN UP You CAN pick up the poop in your life. Do it now !! There is no better time! - with Peace & Love- Michelle SIGN UP NOW for your FREE LESSON and FREE TIPS and CHECKLIST for tackling your projects!
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Today's episode I talk about the book The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield, and it's main evil character: Resistance. Resistance is the driving force that stops us from doing anything that is nurturing to our soul, or toward the pursuit of a calling. It is a must listen and read. Here is the Video Blog. (I obtained permission of the Author to blog about his book) Sometimes things happen in life that completely change the path we thought we were meant to be on. These things are like a slap in the face and can take your breath away. This can leave us with that punch in the gut feeling, a feeling of emptiness, anxiety, loss and hopelessness. This can then lead to feeling stuck, not knowing how to move forward or fear of what lies ahead. Sleepless nights and days filled with anxiety and depression can follow. However, after all the dust settles, the basis of that stuck feeling is fear.. fear of the unknown, fear of what will happen next, fear of making it, fear of not making it, fear of....(insert yours here) . If you let fear grab hold of you it can lead to despair and inaction. These are our worst enemies. Of course when something does happen to derail or alter the course of your life, you need a mourning period, a time to sit back, reflect and just process everything. But there will be a time when we need to pick up the pieces and start moving again. Recognize the fact that we can move on, we can find another path, we can make a difference. Start by reflecting on the event or your life, ( if this brings you too much sorrow or pain, seek counseling, seek it ASAP) Make a list of things you have always wanted to accomplish, big or small. Even recent inklings of ideas you may have had, but brushed aside. Do research, search the internet about your ideas. Make a list of small steps you can take to move toward those accomplishments. Think and pray. You may find that your new path, new purpose will open up before you. If it does, take action. Make a plan, Do the work and don't worry about every little detail (that is the perfectionist/fear mongering demon that wants to stop you in your tracks). Take baby steps every day to move toward your new path. Sometimes the path we were on, was not the path we were meant to be on, we can think of these life changes as a course correction, if you will. Unfortunately they can be a hurtful one. But that does not mean that we will let it stop us! Look past the despair, the anxiety and fear. A whole new life may open up with endless possibilities! I wish you fearlessness on your new path!- Michelle This week I started to realize some things. My subconscious mind was doing things my conscious mind was not aware of. I have been so busy trying to be successful in music and in other passions that I just didn't know up from down and left from right. I was doing so many things that I didn't even know what to focus on anymore so I would subconsciously distract myself and before you know it, no real work was done or I was in a frenzy. But even more than that I was missing important things in my friends and families lives. This past weekend a good friend of mine got Baptized. I had every intention of going. I never put it on my calendar as a reminder and it just slipped my mind. I was so upset with myself for missing this milestone in a friends life. Luckily she had tons of support and was not upset with me, but I was upset with myself. Those are the kinds of things that can pass us by on the way to success. But what good is success if you have lost everything else? It caused me to take a step back and think. In the long run what is more important? For the last couple months I have been running a Workshop called "Search for Significance" for a group of wonderful women at my church. One woman, who helped facilitate, I new her correct name the entire time but the last couple of weeks I started calling her a different name, and I had no idea I was doing that. I even put that name on a gift for her. WHAT??????? This was more than just putting the milk in the cub-bard and the cereal box in the freezer. (Please tell me you do that too!) Another sign of being so busy I don't know my A$$ from my Elbow. She was really cool about it and understood. But again I felt bad, another sign of doing too much. I am sure there are many more subtle things that others see and I don't. I also stopped going to a small group bible study with my girlfriends. I was too "busy". I decided to go last Friday and it felt so good to sit down with friends an talk. We take the stories we read and start discussion how the lessons apply to our lives and affect behavior, it becomes really good discussion and leads to a great connection with these women. Something that I need. I forgot how good that felt. Way better than running around doing the million things I "need" to do and checking Facebook every five seconds. I was also able to perform with the church band again a couple weeks ago and it felt really really good. I felt Alive, as I usually do with when I can sit back and just sing. Our church also had a great Good Friday experience where you visit the stations of the cross, read about the events at each station and reflect. I needed that time to reconnect with God and with myself. I don't know how long I sat in the tomb section but I needed to just sit and be. So with the gentle reminders that I have received I am going to take a step back. Look at the really important things in life, my career and achieve more balance. If every little thing is not done perfectly or if it doesn't get done, then so be it, I need to make time for my friends and family. I don't want to miss those important milestones. I want to be more mindful. I want to have closer relationships and take time to sit and have coffee with someone. I want to put the phone down in the evening and talk to my husband more. How long has it been since you sat in a quiet place and just was present with yourself? Or present with God? Or with Nature? Or to just be quiet and reflect? Or just present with each other? Our lives are so busy, it is just "do do do" all the time. No wonder some of us have no time for the really important things in life or "forget" things. And how much of the stuff we do is really necessary? What can we cut out? How can we be more efficient but be ok with less than perfect? I used to think that multitasking was a great talent.. but now I think it does not allow proper focus on a task. But more than that, it makes our minds constantly moving and thinking to the point of obsession and anxiety. It is time to take a step back, to reflect, to just be, to enjoy, to nurture, to move slower, to not be so perfect , to be mindful and to love. Those are my thoughts for the day, as much as a reminder for myself as for others. Peace and Love |
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